It's up to you, although dragging a four-year-old into this kind of argument probably wasn't the best idea. What do you think the answer would have been, anyway?

I think the idea that you'd keep your location a secret overrides my chances of visiting. I'm only going by what you said...

Like I said, if she's happy there I can't really stop you - but don't think for a second that I'm comfortable leaving her there.